The fifty percent divorce rate in the United States indicates that couples must do something different to remain married. Many counselors use psychology as the platform to help couples survive their crises. Psychology is the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, especially those affecting behavior in a given context. It is impossible to expect to help couples successfully prevent divorce with a man-made process for a God ordained institute.
Marriage is a God ordained institute that has three primary components. The first component is found in Genesis 2:15.
And the Lord God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it (Genesis 2:15 KJV).
God provided Adam with specific instructions. He placed Adam in his calling and instructed him to keep and protect the Garden of Eden. The word ‘dress’ in the Hebrew is ‘abad, which means to work as a servant. The word ‘keep’ in the Hebrew is shamar, which means to protect. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden to work as a servant in the garden and to protect the garden. Protecting the garden required that Adam become the steward of the garden. God granted Adam stewardship over the Garden of Eden. Stewardship requires a relationship between the master and the one that the master entrusts with the resources.
This is the area where many men fail. According to Washington Area Coalition of Men’s Ministries, 90 million men are not involved in any kind of discipleship. According to the 2010 census, there are 151.8 million men in the United States. This is the equivalent of 59% of men who are not serving in their God ordained purpose because they are not involved in any kind of relationship with God
The second component is found in Genesis 2:16-17.
And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die (Genesis 2:16-17 KJV).
The same way that God provided instructions of what he could and could not do, He has also left instructions for the husband. One primary instruction is outlined in 1 Corinthians 11:7.
For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man (1 Corinthians 11:7KJV).
The word glory in the Greek is dox’-ah. Dox’-ah means to honor, praise, and worship. We as men and husbands must develop the following processes. We must:
- Honour the LORD with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase: (Proverbs 3:9)
- So shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine. (Proverbs 3:10)
- God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth (John 4:24).
- And when he had consulted with the people, he appointed singers unto the LORD, and that should praise the beauty of holiness, as they went out before the army, and to say, Praise the LORD; for his mercy endureth for ever. And when they began to sing and to praise, the LORD set ambushments against the children of Ammon, Moab, and mount Seir, which were come against Judah; and they were smitten (2 Chronicles 20:21-22-KJV).
The final component is found in Genesis 2:18.
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him Genesis 2:18 (King James Version KJV).
In this component, God has called the husband to be the team leader. Many men are not taught the appropriate way to be a team leader in the marriage. A team leader exhibits several characteristics that result in team work. Teamwork between the Christian husband and wife provides opportunities for encouragement in times of rejection. Teamwork fulfills an organization’s visions and goals, such as the family by providing people an opportunity to work together, which enables them to attain exceptional results. Divorce can be prevented when couples make a concentrated effort to exhibit and replicate the characteristics associated with the Original Design of Marriage.
Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
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