In a recent article, it is suggested that little disagreements are at the primary cause that is tearing marriages apart. Couples who intend to remain married must have the fortitude to overcome many obstacles. Couples can avoid the disagreements that can tear them apart by developing a strategic plan for their marriage.
According to the article, It’s the Little Disagreements That Tear a Marriage Apart, a 10 year Australian survey revealed that men are the happiest in the first few years of marriage, when they have no dependent children, their wife is five years or more younger than them, wife has a high school diploma or less, wife does not work, wife has good physical and mental health, wife is an extrovert, agreeable, conscientious, and emotionally stable, and the wife does not smoke.
The marriage survey revealed that woman are the happiest in a non marriage committed marriage of less than three years, have no dependent children, their partner is five years or more younger than them, partner has a high school diploma or less, she does not work, partner is in good mental and physical shape, partner is agreeable and she is not, partner is conscientious and emotionally stable and neither partners smoke.
According to the survey both the husband and wife are the happiest:
- In the first few years of marriage
- They have no dependent children
- The other person has less than a high school education
- The wife does not work
- Both are agreeable, conscientious, and emotionally stable
- Both are in good physical and mental health
The marriage survey revealed that both the husband and wife are the unhappiest:
- When they have dependent children
- When the other partner is five or more years older than the other
- Partner is in poor physical or emotional health
- When one smokes and the other does not smoke
An evaluation of the breaking points for marriages, according to this survey, is having no dependent children and both the husband and wife are in good physical and mental health. It is quite unnatural for both a husband and wife to desire to not pro create.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of a childfree marriage?
The advantages of a childfree marriage include having more time for yourself and other relationships, you won’t have as many time restrictions, the world will be less crowded which will result in less depletion of scarce resources, and the couple will have additional monies that would have been spent on children. The disadvantages of a childfree marriage include that the couple will be considered a misfit among their peer group, the couple will miss our of what many have considered a crucial role in life, and you will not have anyone to take care of you grow older.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of a healthy spouse?
The answer to this question should be self explanatory. No spouse desires for their spouse to suffer the tragedies that are associated will poor health. Poor health means that the other spouse has an additional worry along with many other worries that can complicate life. However, an additional complication is the financial stress that unhealthiness can have on a marriage.
The common denominator is money. The lack of money can tear a marriage apart. Couples can avoid this trap by developing a strategic plan for their marriage. Developing a strategic plan requires first developing a family shared vision based on what each persons values are in a marriage followed by developing goals, objectives, timelines, and associated costs. Following this process will eliminate the disagreements that can tear a marriage apart.
Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 1668 Blackwood, NJ 08012 (856) 566-3267 www.advancedmarriagetraining.com
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