How should husbands respond to a breadwinner wife?
In a recent article, an author reports that husbands of a breadwinner wife are likely to have extra marital affairs. Since the monetary roles in the family have taken a dramatic shift, husbands should respond to a breadwinner wife by replicating the original design for marriage. According to the article, a new study by the American Sociological Review found that men who are 100% economically dependent on their wife are three times more likely to have an extra marital affair when compared to wives who have husbands as the sole breadwinner. University of Connecticut sociology professor Christin Munsch believes the infidelity is associated with the cultural norms of what is to be a man. Munsch went on to say that the man’s manhood is threatened and having an affair is a way for the husband to re-establish their manhood. What is the original design of marriage that will keep husbands from cheating on their breadwinner wife? The Original Design of Marriage Genesis 2:7, records that …”the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul”. God placed the man He created in the Garden of Eden. Then God created a habitable environment for him, which included trees that were pleasant to the sight and good for food. God placed the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil in the Garden of Eden too. Eden also had a river that divided into four parts. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden “… to dress it and to keep it” (Genesis 2:15). Dressing and keeping the Garden of Eden was Adams original purpose. The word ‘dress’ in the Hebrew is ‘abad, which means to work as a servant. The word ‘keep’ in the Hebrew is shamar, which means to protect. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden to work as a servant in the garden and to protect the garden. Protecting the garden required that Adam become the steward of the garden. God granted Adam stewardship over the Garden of Eden. Stewardship requires a relationship between the master and the one that the master entrusts with the resources. In this case, God is the master and He entrusted the Garden of Eden to Adam. God provided Adam with the path that he was to follow (Genesis 2:16 – 17). God instructed Adam on what he could and could not do. At that point and time, Adam maintained his relationship with God by obeying his commands. God decided to provide Adam with a helper. Genesis 2:18 records …”The Lord God said , It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet”. That word ‘meet’ in the Hebrew is ‘ezer. Ezer means to help. Eve’s primary responsibility was to help Adam who was to work as a servant and to protect the Garden of Eden. The original purpose for the union between Adam and Eve was to work together as a team to serve and protect the Garden of Eden. Hence, the original purpose for the marriage between a man and a woman is to serve and protect the resources that God gives to the husband and wife through teamwork. The key for the husband is to become a servant of God so that God will provide resources for the husband to protect which will enable the wife to help with the purpose that God gives to the husband. Husbands can determine the area for serving God by:
- Developing a personal vision
- Determining the area that God has called him to serve
Husbands should respond to a breadwinner wife by becoming a servant of God. Related Articles Husbands of female breadwinners most at risk for cheating, says study The danger of being a breadwinning wife Women as sole breadwinners gaining fast on men Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell PO Box 1668 Blackwood, NJ 08012 (856) 566-3267 www.advancedmarriagetraining.com Published books – Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land -Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives) – Advanced Marriage Training for Singles “I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”. Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell Samaritan Baptist Church Trenton, NJ “I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”. Dr. James E. Woods, II El Shaddia Christian Assembly Philadelphia, PA