Why is a Godly marriage rewarding?
In a recent article, an author reveals the negative mindset that many individuals possess about marriage. The author emphasizes that the purpose of marriage is to help one another get into heaven. The purpose of marriage is not to get into heaven but to serve God in the couples ordained purpose.
This opinion is wrong because not all angels end up in heaven, people and angels are different, and the Bible never states that people turn into angels. Certain angels that sinned have already been cast into hell (2 Peter 2:4).
This opinion is wrong because the Bible never states that obeying the Ten Commandments will get you into heaven. The Ten Commandments are about 0.06% of the Bible (Exodus chapter 20, verses 3-17—later repeated in Deuteronomy chapter 5, verses 7-21). If that was all people needed to know, the other 99.94% of the Bible would not have been written. Even the best people can not keep the Ten Commandments.
This opinion is wrong because the Bible never states that attending church will get you into heaven. Since churches disagree with one another, how do you know you are in the correct one to get you into heaven? If going to a restaurant does not turn you into a hamburger, why do you think going to a church will turn you into a saint? (Yes, that was supposed to be humorous, but the concept is completely valid. Some people who go to church each week and promptly fall asleep. If they are openly bored with God, will He still invite them into heaven anyway? We do not think so. What if the church they are attending is actually a cult or a false religion? If that is the case, they are in trouble.
This is also called “balance scale” judgment, and is one of the most common wrong beliefs. This opinion is wrong because the Bible never states that doing more good things than bad things will get you into heaven. Additionally, God is so holy (perfect and sinless) that “all our righteousnesses are like filthy rags” to Him (see Isaiah chapter 64, verse 6). Do you think giving God a pile of filthy rags will cause Him to bring you into heaven? We don’t. Furthermore, going to heaven (or “being saved”) is a free gift of God. He made it that way so nobody could boast that they made it to heaven by their own good deeds. (See Ephesians chapter 2, verses 8 and 9.)
This opinion is wrong because the Bible never states that believing in God will get you into heaven, and confirms that such is the case in James chapter 2, verse 19. Additionally, Satan (the Devil) believes God exists. In fact, he talks with God in Job chapters 1 and 2. Yet, he is not going to heaven—he is going to be cast into the lake of fire and brimstone (hell). This is recorded in Revelation chapter 20, verse 10. Finally, Angels that sinned were cast into hell—and they knew God. Read 2 Peter, chapter 2, verse 4.
This opinion is wrong becuase although murdering someone is one of the best ways to help you go to hell, the Bible never states that not murdering anyone will get you into heaven. The same is true of not doing “lesser” crimes. In the Bible, there are at least two murderers that went to heaven: Moses and David. There are some people who never killed anyone (or did anything else “really bad”) who still went to hell (hades). Read an example in Luke chapter 16, verses 19 to 31.
This opinion is wrong because the Bible never states that being part of a specific family will allow you to go to heaven. You are not physically born a Christian like you are born a citizen of a country. To become a Christian and go to heaven (enter the kingdom of God) you have to be “born of water and the Spirit.” This is different (John 3:1-8). The Bible states that some members of a family will go to heaven while others sleeping or working next to them will not (Matthew 24:40-41 & Luke 17:34-35).
If marriage does not save a person, the how can a person be saved?
The Apostle Paul and Silas were thrown in jail in the city of Philippi for preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ. At midnight they sang and prayed until God broke down all the doors and broke the stocks which held their feet with a great earthquake. The poor jailer, frightened and convicted of his sins, came to these two preachers and asked this question. “Sirs, what must I do to be saved?” Paul and Silas responded: “Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household” (Acts 16:31).
This is the prescription for salvation. Not marriage.
The purpose of marriage is to serve God. The Holy union of Adam and Eve provide us with the purpose of marriage. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden “… to dress it and to keep it” (Genesis 2:15). The word ‘dress’ in the Hebrew is ‘abad, which means to work as a servant. The word ‘keep’ in the Hebrew is shamar, which means to protect. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden to work as a servant in the garden and to protect the garden. God decided to provide Adam with a helper. Genesis 2:18 records …”The Lord God said , It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet”. That word ‘meet’ in the Hebrew is ‘ezer. Ezer means to help. Eve’s primary responsibility was to help Adam who was to work as a servant and to protect the Garden of Eden.
The primary purpose of marriage is for the husband and wife to work as a team in the area that God has called the husband to serve. Couples who make the decision to follows God’s purpose for marriage can expect to have all of the resources needed to be successful.
Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell PO Box 1668 Blackwood, NJ 08012 (856) 566-3267 www.advancedmarriagetraining.com
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