Can money make a happy marriage?
In a recent article, researcher Thomas Corley claims that the secret to a happy marriage includes money. He has based the conclusion on his five year study of the habits of rich and poor people. Corley has erroneously come to this conclusion because he does not know the original purpose of marriage.
During his five year study he found that:
- 82% of the wealthy were happy, while 98% of the poor were unhappy
- 87% of the wealthy were happy in their marriage, while 53% of the poor were unhappy
- 93% of the wealthy were happy because they liked or loved what they did for a living, while 85% of the poor were unhappy
- 0% of the wealthy were unhappy due to finances, while 98% of the poor were unhappy
If money was the primary factor that enabled couples to have a happy marriage, then rich people would not get divorced. The following divorces have been extremely costly:
Rupert married Anna in the 1960s, with the pair remaining together for 32 years, having three children. They split amicably in 1998. The divorce was finalized in June 1999 when he agreed to let her leave with $1.7 billion. 17 days later he married Wendi Deng.
Saudi businessman Adnan made his money as an international arms dealer for the Saudi royal family. He then launched his company Triad, based in Switzerland, owning banks hotels and real estate across the world. He married Soraya in 1961. Their 1982 divorce resulted in an estimated $874 million settlement.
Craig made his money turning a failing TV cable service into a successful business, eventually selling for $755 million. In 1981 he then acquired cellular phone licenses, eventually selling to phone company AT&T for approximately $12 billion, becoming its largest single shareholder. The pair met at Stanford University when she tutored him, with them marrying in 1974. In 1995 divorce proceedings were initiated with Wendy wanting her share to support a $200,000 a month lifestyle.
It had been speculated that the settlement could have left her the world’s richest ever divorcee. But according to Russian news sources, Mrs Abramovich settled for $300m (£155m).The figure included the value of homes in Britain and Moscow, as well as a yacht and private plane. At one point it was thought he would have to pay a settlement of at least $1 billion.
According to court records, the couple married in the Ukraine in 1975, coming to the US in 1976 with “only four suitcases and $500 in cash. After citing irreconcilable differences in 2003, Maya Polsky filed for divorce from energy magnate Michael Polsky. In October 2006 a Chicago judge said Mrs Polsky was entitled to at least half of the couple’s assets.
Welch is the former Chairman and CEO of General Electric, the technology and service conglomerate in New York, now ranked as the world’s largest company. The couple married in April 1989, divorcing in 2003. While Welch had reportedly written a prenuptial agreement, there was a 10-year time limit. Beasley reportedly left with amount to be in the range of $180 million.
The most expensive celebrity divorce in history. The former Chicago Bulls basketball superstar married Juanita Vanoy in 1989. They divorced in 2007. It is thought negotiations between the couple added £20 million to the final deal from an initial settlement. The marriage had shown signs of trouble in the past with Juanita filing for divorce in 2002, although they announced a reconciliation.
Amy Irving shot to fame in 1976 when she played the lone teen survivor in Carrie. Spielberg began to make a name for himself in Hollywood, following Jaws. The pair married in 1985, but the pair broke up four years later. He gave Irving, the mother of their son Max $100 million.
The pair met in 1969 at school. When they married in 1976 neither had significant resources. In November 2003, Mr Charman, nicknamed “King of the London Insurance Market”, told his wife he was setting up residence in Bermuda and their marriage was over. He initially offered her £6 million cash, but she argued that the sum was not enough. The judge decreed a fair settlement would involve him giving 37 per cent of his assets. Mr Charman had a subsequent appeal dismissed. It is thought to be Britain’s highest divorce settlement.
These couples who divorced had plenty of money. The conclusion that money can make a happy marriage is a farce. The only way to have a happy marriage, is to have a marriage as designed by God – The Father of Jesus Christ. According to Genesis 2;15-18, the original marriage between Adam and Eve have three primary components.
The first component is that the husband must be a servant to God and a good steward over the resources that He provides (Genesis 2:15). The second component is that the husband must be obedient to God’s instructions and commands (Genesis 2:16-17). The final component is that the husband must be a team leader. The wife as the ultimate team player which is the final component for a happy marriage (Genesis 2:18).