How can couples bulletproof their marriage?
In a recent article, several authors believe that the best way to bulletproof a marriage is to treat it like a business. Marriage is a sacred institution. Marriage should not be treated like a business. This also implies that a successful marriage is dependent on the economical system of the country. Couples can only bulletproof their marriage by replicating the characteristics associated with the original design of marriage (Ordermige).
According to the article, Couples learn how to bulletproof their marriage and invest in a life-long relationship, counselors Renato and Cardoso have created a guide for helping singles and couples. “The co-authors state that marriage is like a business and that problems should be approached as they would in a company, seeking a win-win situation for everyone. If one loses, both lose. So remember the company’s goals, the team, not just the individual. Similar to a company, propose a solution that addresses the cause of the problem. Having identified the challenge, couples are guided on how to agree a plan of action, define who will do what and test it to see if it offers a practical solution.” Treating a marriage like a business is problematic because it does not guide couples to replicate the original design of marriage.
The original design of marriage has three primary components. The fist component that is found in Genesis 2:16 which provides an insight on what preparation and characteristics will qualify a man to be a husband. The perspective husband must be a servant and a good steward over the resources that God has provided.
A servant is a person who obedient and faithful to God – The Father of Jesus Christ.(Joshua 1:2; 2 Kings 8:19; Daniel 6:20; Colossians 4:12; 2 Timothy 2:24). Our great almighty God Jesus Christ was a servant too. “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45). Jesus Christ servanthood attitude was exemplified according to Philippians 2:6-7.
“Who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, taking the form of a servant” (Philippians 2:6-7).
A servant will also have a relationship with Jesus Christ. He will dedicate himself to his calling. He will be a great steward over the resources that God has provided. Daniel provides an example of a good steward. Like many of us, Daniel was a steward in a foreign land. Whatever God entrust us with, whether it is gifts of ability, intellect, possessions, position, or financial prosperity, he places those gifting into our lives to bless others, and to further God’s purposes. Daniel and his friends Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah, who are better, know as Shadrach, Meschach and Abendego, found themselves as captives who were temporarily living in Babylon. As stewards, they choose to live a modest life style (Daniel 1:3-30).
- Daniel used his gifts to glorify God (Daniel 2: 1-47).
- Daniel risked his life to save pagan magicians form the king’s wrath (Daniel 2:24).
- Daniel used his position and power to bless others (Daniel 2:48-49).
- Daniel and his friends responded to the king with respect after proving that God was greater than the king’s god (Daniel 3:1-30).
- Daniel recognized that his gifts were to not for self-indulgence but to bring about God’s purposes (Daniel 5:13-23).
The second component for the original design of marriage which will help couples to bulletproof their marriage is found in Genesis 2:16-17. God gave Adam instruction on what he could and could not do. One area that many men and woman have challenges with is pre-marital sex. Even though there is no specific prohibition in the Bible against sex between an unmarried man and unmarried woman. However, “sexual immorality” is denounced in about 25 passages in the New Testament. The word translated as “sexual immorality” or “fornication” in English versions of the Bible is the Greek word porneia, which means “illicit sexual intercourse.”
The third component that will help couples to bulletproof their marriage is found in Genesis 2:18. This is the area that the authors are directing couples to concentrate on without considering the original design of marriage. In this phase couples are to work together as a team. They are to have a primary focus on where God has called the man to serve. It does not minimize the Spiritual Gifts endowed to the wife, but it highlights the couples calling on their lives which is the only way for couples to bulletproof their marriage.
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