How can husbands and wives put the spark back in their marriage?

Putting the spark back into your marriage will help to traverse through the low points more smoothly. It will help to set the stage for a relationship where the husband and wife will feel at ease with one another even through trouble may be on the rise. Couples who desire to spark their marriage will need to use the Luveuphoria phenomenon on a continual basis.

The Luveuphoria phenomenon forms the basis for putting the spark back into your marriage. One of the major signs of an unhealthy marriage is the lack of non-sexual contact. Non-sexual contact can lead to a sexless marriage. People who are involved in a sex-less marriage are more likely to consider divorce and are more likely to exist in an unhappy marriage.

The Luveuphoria Phenomenon has roots in Newton’s Law of Cooling. Newton’s Law of Cooling states that the rate of change of the temperature of an object is proportional to the difference between its own temperature and the ambient temperature.

The Luveuphoria Phenomenon is consistent with Newton’s Law of Cooling. It states that the rate of affection in a marriage is proportional to the number of non-sexual contact encounters and the number of days that a person is in the presence of their spouse.

A non-sexual touch such as a friendly slap on the back, a sensual caress, or a loving kiss has a powerful impact on the emotions of an individual. This is true because your skin contains receptors that directly elicit emotional responses, through stimulation of erogenous zones or nerve endings. The emotional impact of non-sexual contact is ingrained in our bodies.

Another factor that contributes to the benefits of non-sexual contact is oxytocin. Non-sexual contact can induce oxytocin release among humans. Oxytocin is a hormone that reduces stress related responses and is an important ingredient for any successful marriage. 

The oxytocin receptor, also known as OXTR, is a protein which functions as receptor for the hormone and neurotransmitter oxytocin. In humans, the oxytocin receptor is encoded by the OXTR gene which has been localized to human chromosome 3p25. Oxytocin receptors are present in the central nervous system. These receptors modulate a variety of behaviors, including stress and anxiety, social memory and recognition, sexual and aggressive behaviors, bonding (affiliation) and maternal behavior. The Luveuphoria Challenge provides a solution that will place the spark back into your marriage.

Here are the official 10 Day Luveuphoria Challenge rules:

  1. For ten days the husband or wife will use the Luveuphoria Formula to pre-plan the non-sexual contacts. The goal is to stay within the extremely hot range. Click here for instructions on how to use the Luveuphoria Formula. The husband or wife can choose to use the convenience of our Luveuphoria Formula App which is available on the Apple Store or on the Google Play Store.  He/she can also use the Luveuphoria Kit.
  2. Each day the husband/wife will post a brief Facebook video about their experience. They will include the following hashtag – #10DayLuveuphoria – so that your husband/wife can benefit from their testimonial. The husband/wife will also nominate two other husbands/wives to take on the challenge.

For your video testimonial here are a few tips. An effective testimonial is audible and brief. The four essential parts to an effective testimonial include: (1) the beginning, (2) a sequence of events, (3) a Climax, and (4) a conclusion. In order to effectively organize your testimonial please consider the following. For the beginning include what your marriage was like before the 10 Day Luveuphoria Challenge. For the sequence of events please include some of the non-sexual contacts that you used. For the climax include some of the responses that your husband/wife had. For the conclusion include the positive impact that the 10 Day Luveuphoria Challenge had on your marriage therefore resulting in putting the spark back into their marriage.

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Minister Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

Published Books

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles

“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ

“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

February 22, 2019 – Lighthouse Community Church – Pleasantville, NJ

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE             CONTACT: Pastor & Minister Johnson

February 22, 2019 @ 6pm                                        (609) 383-1552 office@lighthousecommunity.church

Summary: Advanced Marriage Training Seminar for Couples is going to be held on February 22, 2019. The seminar will be presented by Dr. Derrick and Minister Sheila Campbell.

October 27, 2019: Advanced Marriage Training Seminar for Couples, a much-awaited seminar by Dr. Derrick and Minster Sheila Campbell, is set to be held on February 22, 2019 at the home of Pastor and Minster Johnson who serve at the Lighthouse community Church in Pleasantville, NJ. According to sources, Dr. Derrick and Minster Sheila will be speaking on ways to enhance marriage through leadership principles. They will also explain why applying leadership principles are important for a successful marriage.

Dr. Campbell has written several books on the same. These are titled ‘Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land’, ‘Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land Workbook for Husbands’, ‘Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land Workbook for Wives’, and ‘Advanced Marriage Training for Singles’. The books are available on the biggest online marketplace – Amazon.com as well as his website.

When contacted, Dr. Derrick said, “I wrote these books to stop divorces for married couples and to help singles to make a better choice when choosing a spouse in order to stop divorces. Everyday couples are making the choice to separate and eventually become divorced. This trend has a traumatic impact on the family and the society that we live.” He further added, “The books will help couples to understand the source of conflict between couples and how to overcome marriage challenges by working together as a team.”

Dr. Campbell and Minster Sheila has a verified capability to guide and build up married couples and singles. He has been providing expert leadership views and opinions about marriage. He talks about the original purpose of marriage, the source of many marriage problems, and how to overcome those problems.

When contacted, Bishop Peter Morgan said, “I think that this is a very useful seminar. I recommend it to any couple, any church, anywhere.”

About Dr. Derrick and Minster Sheila Campbell

Dr. Derrick and Minister Sheila Campbell began their Advanced Marriage Training with the focus of helping couples to build healthy marriages based on the original design of marriage as outlined by the Holy Scriptures.

Dr. Campbell holds a doctorate degree in Educational Leadership from Rowan University. He has authored eight books that focus on enhancing marriages as well as other books that provide diversity training for schools.

Minster Shelia holds degrees in Human services and biblical studies. Sheila currently teaches in the Bible Training Center as well as serves in the Care Ministry. She has been involved in Christian Ministry for over 35 years. Saved as a teenager, she started serving in her local church; Deliverance Evangelistic Church (Philadelphia, PA) which was one of the first mega churches of that time. Sheila served in their music ministry, hospital and nursing home ministry as well as the prayer chain ministry praying for the sick and despondent who called in to the prayer hotline.

She took several courses at the Deliverance Bible Institute, Jamison Bible College and later received her certificate in Biblical Studies from her local church Living Faith Bible Training Center in Pennsauken, NJ. Sheila currently teaches in the Bible Training Center as well as serves in the Care Ministry.

Dr. Campbell and Minister Sheila Campbell have been involved in ministry for over 25 years. They have been married for 19 years and counting. They enjoy traveling to beach resorts, dining out, and going to the movies in their spare time.

Contact Information

Contact Person: Dr. Derrick L. Campbell

Contact Number: (856) 566-3267

Email id: moreinfo@advancedmarriagetraining.com

Website: https://www.advancedmarriagetraining.com/

Address: PO Box 4707 Cherry Hill, NJ 08034

When is divorce a good thing?

Couples go through many challenges which can cause them to contemplate divorce. The cost of a divorce make it seems easy for individuals contemplating the process. For example, there is a fee to file a divorce, and to get a summons. As of August 15, 2012, the filing fee is $200.00, plus a $15.00 surcharge, and a summons costs $5.00. Notifying your spouse, called service of process, can cost around $30.00 or more if he or she lives far away. There is only one occasion when divorce is considered a good thing.

Researchers report that divorce can cause advantages and hardships on the man and woman as well as other members of the family. After divorce, women experience less stress and better adjustment in general than do men. The reasons for this are that:

  • Women are more likely to notice marital problems and to feel relief when such problems end
  • Women are more likely than men to rely on social support systems and help from others
  • Women are more likely to experience an increase in self-esteem when they divorce and add new roles to their lives.

It seems that women have an advantage as a result of divorce.

Men are usually confronted with greater emotional adjustment problems when compared to women. The reasons for this are related to:

  • The loss of intimacy
  • The loss of social connection, reduced finances
  • The common interruption of the parental role.

Men are initially more negative about divorce than women and devote more energy in attempting to salvage the marriage.

However, it appears that children suffer the most from divorce. Children of divorce suffer from depression, school failures, and tend to get into more trouble with law enforcement. Children with depression and conduct disorders show these problems because there was parental conflict that pre-dates the divorce.

New evidence reveals that both boys and girls equally have a hard time as a result of the divorce. Boys are more externally symptomatic than girls, they act out their anger, frustration and hurt. They may get into trouble in school, fight more with peers and parents. Girls tend to internalize their distress. They may become depressed, develop headaches or stomach aches, and have changes in their eating and sleeping patterns.

People divorce for many reasons. According to Marriage.com, the top reasons for divorce include:

  1. Infidelity. Extra-marital affairs are responsible for the breakdown of most marriages that end in divorce.
  2. Money. Money makes people funny, or so the saying goes, and it’s true.
  3. Lack of communication.
  4. Constant arguing.
  5. Weight gain.
  6. Unrealistic expectations.
  7. Lack of intimacy.
  8. Lack of equality.

Even though these are the top reasons, it is the response to these problems that causes more divorces. Couples who desire to avoid divorce must better control their anger. However, there are instances when controlling anger as a prerequisite to divorce is not possible.

According to the Holy bible, the only reason that people should consider divorce is infidelity. In the Old Testament, adultery was understood as sexual relations between a married (or betrothed) woman and man other than her husband. It was therefore a sin against the husband. In the New Testament, Jesus extended the definition of adultery to include sexual relations between a married man and a woman other than his wife. Jesus said, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:11-12).

People often wonder if an exception is allowed. However, the Bible doesn’t mention any possible exceptions. Therefore, if a couple is legally married, sex with anyone else is considered adultery. The Bible mentions that adultery is grounds for divorce but does not require it. In many cases, the husband and wife can be reconciled, and the marriage saved after adultery. It is not a sin to continue to live with and have sex with a spouse who has committed adultery therefore avoiding divorce.

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Minister Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

Published Books

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles

“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ

“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

Why sex before marriage is a bad idea?

Sex before marriage is a detriment that continues to contribute to the rising divorce rate. Those who participate have a propensity to weaponize sex in addition to other things. For example, in December 2011, Sarah Jio compiled interesting statistics about sex and experts’ opinions and reported that 84% of women have sex to get their guy to do more around the house. Sex before marriage introduces the possibility of weaponizing sex, complicating the reproduction process, and complicating the bonding process which in many cases results in divorce. 

The institute for Family Studies reported that married people are happiest if their spouses are the only people with whom they have ever had sex. The study found that 64 % of the women who reported one sexual partner over their lifetime were classified as “very happy”. Fifty-two percent of the women who had six to ten lifetime sexual partners were less likely to have the same classification. The results for this study were consistent for men too. Seventy-two percent of the men who had one lifetime sexual partner were classified as “very happy”. Only sixty percent of men with five lifetime sexual partners were less likely to have the same classification. Sex before marriage is a great detriment to a happy marriage which increases the possibility of divorce.

Sex is meant for reproduction of offspring. When animals are motivated to reproduce it happens during mating or copulation; for most non-human mammals, mating and copulation occur at oestrus (the most fertile period in the mammalian female’s reproductive cycle), which increases the chances of successful impregnation. Once animals have reproduced the primary function to develop the offspring is left to the mother. Animals have a tradition of a female centered offspring development. This is counterproductive for humans and has consequences that have become detrimental to the offspring of human children.

Children from fatherless homes are more likely to be poor, become involved in drug and alcohol abuse, drop out of school, and suffer from health and emotional problems. Boys are more likely to become involved in crime, and girls are more likely to become pregnant as teens.

Sex before marriage has a direct impact on bonding between men and women. Scientifically, sex engages men and women hormonally, neurologically, and psychologically. Therefore, forming intense bonds mentally, emotionally, and physically, especially when a man and woman are involved in sex before marriage over and over.

Sexual activity releases chemicals in our brains. For women, it is primarily the hormone oxytocin, and for men it is vasopressin. Oxytocin allows a woman to bond to the most significant people in her life. It eases stress, creating feelings of calm and closeness, which leads to increased trust. It also causes her to want to nurture and protect the one she’s bonded to. Vasopressin is very similar to oxytocin, except that it is primarily released in the brain of men. This hormone causes a man to bond to a woman during intimate contact. This hormone generates a desire for commitment and rouses loyalty. There is a third set of hormones called endorphins released during sexual activities, and they affect both genders. Endorphins are highly addictive and cause us to want to experience the rush again and again and again.  Whether it’s a one-time sexual encounter or a lifelong commitment, sex causes individuals to bond.

The act of sex before marriage results in multiple sexual partners. The pattern that is developed is that people bond and break, bond and break, and bond and break. Through time. People lose their ability to bond. Due to this repeated pattern people do not feel connected or committed. And when someone else comes along that seems a little more exciting, more appealing, or more perfect for us, the feelings diminish for the person and the bond and break relationship pattern continues. This pattern of sex before marriage leads to divorce. Therefore, we must follow the instructions in the Holy Bible regarding sex before marriage.

 

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Minister Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

 

Published Books

 

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles


“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ


“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

 

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to make a blended family marriage work?

As the divorce rate continues to surge, the rate of blended families continues to surge as well. It is estimated that 75 percent of divorcees will remarry. Of those who decide to remarry, almost 43 percent involve children from a previous marriage, therefore creating trends for a blended family.

A blended family can face many problems which include conflicts between step siblings, children, step parents, non-custodial parents, and even between the parents. The problem is present because often each person either externally or internally involved in a blended family will have different values regarding how the family should operate. The parents must begin with determining how to best operate internally and then consider the external relationships.

The reason that the parents must begin with the internal values is because without this beginning these parents are on the verge on becoming divorced. The internal parents should first consider a shared vision.

A shared vision is the answer to the question, “What do we want to create?” ” A shared vision is a picture that everyone in the family carries in their heads and hearts. With a shared vision the husband and wife have a common destination and a common picture. Thus, they have laid the foundation to work to together as a team to remain successfully married.

Teamwork in a marriage is a necessary aspect to the success of a marriage. Teamwork is the collaborative effort of a team to achieve a common goal or to complete a task in the most effective and efficient way. This concept is seen within the greater framework of a team, which is a group of interdependent individuals who work together towards a common goal. Successful teamwork in a family begins with developing a shared vision.

The first step is developing a family shared vision is for the husband and wife in the blended family to write down their top ten marriage values, why that value is important, and a scripture that pertains to that value. After sharing these values and their importance the couple will need to narrow the values to three values that they can agree on. Once they have agreed on three values, they will develop the shared vision. One shared vision starter is as follows:

Our Vision is to ____________ (Value 1), ____________ (Value 2), _________ (Value 3) …

After the shared vision development, the blended family needs to work on developing a family strategic plan. This portion of the process will include the step parents, parents, step children, children, and any other family members that will impact the blended family. Ask each family member to write down ten goals for the family and why they are important. 

The blended family husband and wife are to become the facilitators of this process. Bringing the family together to solve problems, create plans, and make decisions related to the blended family requires both a powerful and essential form of leadership. Facilitate means “to make easy.”  As a facilitator, the job of the husband and wife is to make the process easier for the family. As a facilitator you will manage the process, rather than the goals. Facilitators are concerned with how decisions are made instead of what decisions are reached. 

Other facilitator responsibilities include:

  1. Remaining neutral
  2. Listening actively and asking others to do the same
  3. Encouraging different points of view
  4. Intervene if the discussion starts to fragment
  5. Preventing dominance and including everyone
  6. Summarize discussions and conversations

The blended family husband and wife will need to manage difficult family dynamics. The potential for challenging obstacles when facilitating the family goal making process are many and varied. They include personalities that may clash, aggressive or unacceptable behavior by one or several blended family members, and overly talkative family members who may even seek to gain control of conversations, which can disrupt the objectives and bring the process progress to a halt. No matter what the hurdle, the blended family facilitators should handle the problem with calm and be prepared to take a step away from the discourse momentarily to assess the situation and choose the best way to steer the meeting back on course.

The Blended family husband and wife will need to facilitate the consensus decision making process. A consensus decision is not a unanimous vote for an idea, majority vote, or achieving total satisfaction of all family members. It is an idea that every family member:

  1. Substantially agrees to represent a common reality
  2. Is involved in the fusion of the information, logic, and they have an opportunity to express their feelings
  3. Is willing to accept the groups decision
  4. Believes that the decision is a workable approach that is in the best interest of the team

Consensus is necessary to ensure that the blended family members have an opportunity to speak, to listen to each other, to build on each other’s ideas, and to reach well-considered conclusions that hold enough agreement to enable the whole group to move forward together for successfully developing blended family goals.

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

 

Published Books

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles


“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

 

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ


“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

 

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

 

 

 

 

How to save a psychologically abusive marriage?

There are many reasons that couples struggle which include a psychologically abusive marriage. The magnitude of the reaction is dependent upon the historical involvement of the individual. Individuals can only save a psychologically abusive marriage through submission to moral values that are consistent with the appropriate rules for interacting.

Psychological abuse is a form of abuse, characterized by a person subjecting, or exposing, another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxietychronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. It is often associated with situations of power imbalance in abusive relationships including bullyinggaslighting, and abuse in the workplace. The primary reason for abuse in the marriage is a misunderstanding of the power relationship between a husband and wife. This can create tremendous challenges for a marriage due to the proposed power relationship structure in the United States. 

In the United States, society teaches men to put women on a pedestal if they expect to have a successful opportunity at marriage. Putting a woman on a pedestal is a major mistake because after marriage the expectation is a power shift from the man serving the woman to the woman serving the man. When this transition does not take place there is a potential for an abusive marriage. 

Overcoming an abusive marriage requires an insight to the thinking of the abuser and the abused. According to all 323 women in a recent study, they reported at least one incident of either physical or psychological abuse. Physical abuse should not be tolerated and should be reported to the appropriate authorities. However, the prelude to physical abuse is psychological abuse.

Signs and symptoms of psychological abuse include:

  • Name calling
  • Yelling
  • Insulting the person
  • Threatening the person or threatening to take away something that is important to them
  • Imitating or mocking the person
  • Swearing at them
  • Ignoring
  • Isolating the person
  • Excluding them from meaningful events or activities

A husband or wife can be subjected to psychological abuse. The only way to render psychological abuse ineffective is to better understand the biblical requirements for communication.

As the leader, the husband is required to utilize certain biblical principles when communicating with his wife. According to Colossians 3:8, no “filthy communication” should escape from the lips of a Christian, whether said in jest or in earnest. James speaks clearly on this subject in James 1:19, “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” When we speak in anger, we fail to show God’s love. 

We should always communicate in a loving manner. Otherwise, our testimony is damaged, as is the name of Jesus Christ when His people fail to guard their tongues. The best way to be sure what comes from our mouths is pure is to be aware of what is in your heart. As Jesus reminded the Pharisees, “Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.” If our hearts are filled with ungodliness, it will eventually come forth in our speech, no matter how hard we try to restrain it. 

The husband and wife should constantly examine their communication. They should also consider the impact of the tone of newer forms of communication such as email and text messaging. They should never allow the safety of a computer screen to lead to harsh or ungodly words toward each other. They should consider their body language and facial expressions as well. Simply withholding words is meaningless when our body language communicates disdain, anger, or hatred toward each other. When engaged in conversation, as we prepare to speak, we should ask ourselves these questions:

  1. Is it true (Exodus 20:16)?
  2. Is it kind (Titus 3:2)?
  3. Is it necessary (Proverbs 11:22)?
  4. Does it result in abuse?

Eliminating a psychologically abusive marriage requires extensive work from both the husband and wife.

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

Published Books

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles

 


“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

 

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ


“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

 

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA


Science of Same-Sex: Why marriage between a man and woman is important?

 

Marriage between a man and woman has taken a backseat to the constitutional and commercial desires of politicians and businesses. Politicians believe that marriage can permeate into differing combinations that will enhance the overall community. They believe that individual constitutional rights are more important than the moral fiber. Businesses need to profit from other marriage variables in order to increase revenue for future possibilities otherwise other forms of government will dominate. Marriage between a man and woman is the backbone to future survival of our community and our world.

While the debate continues to rage, no on can argue the role that nature has played and continues to play in the proper relationships which reveal why marriage between a man and woman is important. Scientists have recently estimated that there are approximately 8.7 million species on Earth. They believe that 1-2 million of those species are animals. Out of 1-2 million animals, there are only six animals that reproduce asexually.

First, Marmorkrebs accomplish asexual reproduction via apomixis, a process usually reserved for plants in which an organism can generate an embryo without fertilization. The marmorkreb, whose name means “marbled crab” in German, is an invasive species who has set up populations in three countries while greatly upsetting native wildlife. As a result, in 2011, Missouri added marmorkrebs to its prohibited species list.

Secondly, another animal that reproduces asexually is the Whiptail Lizard. Unlike many other species the Whiptail Lizard has no choice but to reproduce asexually. The Whiptail Lizard belongs exclusively to the girls-only club. This celibate, all-female species begins the reproductive process with twice the number of chromosomes as its sexually reproducing relatives. Whiptails evolved from hybrids of other species and may possess two complete sets of chromosomes. The lifespan of the whiptail lizard is 3.2 years.

Thirdly, the Komodo Dragon reproduces asexually. Female Komodos have a singular ability to lay eggs without having had sex, and these eggs will produce healthy male children. This occurs because female Komodos have two different sex chromosomes that multiply on their own in the eggs. Komodos have really, really bad dental hygiene, to the point that they’re poisonous. Scientists have identified some 50 different bacterial strains, at least seven of which are highly toxic, in their saliva. If the komodo’s bite doesn’t kill you, its deadly drool likely will.

Fourthly, Captive Sharks reproduce asexually. In Florida, female hammerheads captured as pups were kept away from males and reproduced asexually. Captive Sharks rarely reproduce asexually. In 1978, SeaWorld reportedly attempted to display a couple of wild-caught shortfin mako sharks at its Shark Encounter Exhibit. The animals reportedly died within days, after running into the walls of the enclosure. Recently, a great white shark died after just three days in a Japanese aquarium. These incidents aren’t isolated: Sharks don’t thrive in tanks

Fifthly, another animal that can reproduce asexually is the Ageless Hydra. Hydras can opt to reproduce sexually or asexually. When food is plentiful, hydras reproduce on their own; but when food becomes scarce, they mate with sexual partners to generate more diversity in the species. The Hydra shows no signs of aging which indicates that the animal has very little physical progression through its life.

Finally, Cloning Wasps reproduce asexually. When certain species become infected with Wolbachia bacteria, the chromosomes in wasp eggs change. As a result, the eggs do not divide, and instead of creating unique offspring, mother wasps create female clones of themselves. While it sounds like a neat survival trick, the wasps are only buying time. Eventually the bacteria create only female clones who are infected therefore resulting in the death of the wasp colony.

We can surmise that animals that reproduce asexually exhibit characteristics that result in a limited life span, detrimental physical characteristics, or the appearance of limited growth. Nature proves that any other combination than a marriage between a man and a woman is detrimental to men, women, children, and the community at large.

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

 

Published Books

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles


“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ


“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

How to handle relationship complaints?

Relationship complaints are one of the most mishandled aspects that in many cases is the first indication of a breakup. Resulting breakups can have a devastating impact on both the man and woman or husband and wife. The primary way to respond to relationship complaints is through a commitment analysis to eliminate the possibility of a breakup. 

One proposed relationship expert proclaims that there are three relationships complaints that should not be ignored. These include:

  1. Frustrations about sex
  2. Clashes with in-laws
  3. Techno-conferencing 

The three primary relationship complaints are in direct correlation to a lack of communication and a possible violation of moral principles based on the Holy Bible. The first complaint of frustrations about sex are two-fold.

First, for the man and woman are not married, frustrations about sex should not be a determining factor according to the Holy Bible. 

There is no specific prohibition in the Bible against sex between an unmarried man and unmarried woman. However, “sexual immorality” is denounced in about 25 passages in the New Testament. The word translated as “sexual immorality” or “fornication” in English versions of the Bible is the Greek word porneia, which means “illicit sexual intercourse.” The Bible does not provide a specific list of acts that constitute “sexual immorality,” but these verses, also written by Paul, seem to say that any sexual intercourse, except between husband and wife, would be wrong.

For example, 1 Corinthins 7: 1-2 – ‘Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

Secondly, a husband and wife who are frustrated about sex should use the Luveuphoria Formula. The Luveuphoria Formula is a product of the Luveuphoria Phenomenon.

One of the major signs of an unhealthy marriage is the lack of non-sexual intimacy. Non-sexual intimacy can lead to a sexless marriage. People who are involved in a sex-less marriage are more likely to consider divorce and are more likely to exist in an unhappy marriage. Non-sexual intimacy is a significant contributor to long-term marital bliss. This warm, positive, skin-to-skin contact releases the same bonding chemicals in your brain as sex.

The remedy to this marriage problem is easy. Use the Luveuphoria Formula and the Luveuphoria Scale to monitor the frequency of non-sexual intimacy in your marriage. Adding non-sexual intimacy to your marriage is a low-pressure way of maintaining a healthy marriage. Regular non-sexual intimacy can make you both more receptive to sensual experiences and it will make it easier to transition into more frequent sexual encounters.

The second complaint is about clashes with in-laws. In Genesis 2:24 we are taught, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” In a single verse, we find sound marital counsel that is just as applicable today as it was when Adam and Eve received it. This verse focuses on three important interrelated principles of marriage: leaving, cleaving, and becoming one.

The first step in obtaining the heavenly form of marriage is for a man to “leave his father and his mother.” The second step is to cleave. As one “leaves,” one is also expected to “cleave unto his wife.” The term cleave, as used in Genesis, is derived from the Hebrew dawbak, meaning “cling, adhere, stick, catch by pursuit” or “follow close.” The third step is to become one. While the world seems to emphasize behavioral differences between men and women and leads some to conclude that such differences are insurmountable, prophets have taught that through marriage men and women can become whole. Unity in marriage is not achieved simply by kneeling at an altar and accepting a spouse. It requires effort for a couple to become one. Marital unity doesn’t mean that spouses agree on everything. It also doesn’t mean they have to spend every minute of every day together, think the same thoughts, and order the same meal at restaurants.

The final complaint is regarding Techno-conferencing. Techno-conferencing is the equivalent of the usage of social media. The most important strategy to eliminate this complaint is transparency. As a rule of thumb, if you spouse cannot have or does not have access to your social media platform then you should not be on that social media platform.

The best way to handle relationships complaints is to conduct a commitment analysis. A commitment analysis is an evaluation of the individual’s allegiance. For many people, commitments are voiced as criticisms. For example, a person might criticize the appearance of the outside of the home. A commitment analysis will reveal that the person is committed to having a home with a great outside appearance. Another example is when a person complains that about the finances. Their commitment is to have a financially secure future. A final complaint could be a criticism regarding the sharing of feelings. The commitment is to increase the communication between the two persons.

A commitment analysis involves:

  1. Listing the top ten complaints
  2. Write down the persons commitment
  3. Determine if you agree with this commitment

A full commitment analysis will help each person to better handle relationship complaints.

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

Published Books

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles


“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ


“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

 

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

 

How to start dating after divorce?

After the stinging pain of divorce, many people try the dating game to seek companionship. The divorcee must wrestle with different strategies that will ensure a different outcome. Men and women must take on a different mindset based on the Original Design of Marriage as they negotiate through the dating process. 

The recommendations offered by other proposed experts will create failure for the dating divorcee. For example, it is suggested that dating after divorce should include:

1) Talking Your Time

2) Overcoming Online Dating Challenges

3) Seeking a Different Type of Mate

4) Not Looking for a Quick Fix

5) Keeping the Relationship Casual

The inevitable is that dating after divorce has an end on mind. That end is to remarry. Since we are creatures of habit, the divorcee is apt to replicate or accept the same behaviors that lead to divorced in the first place. We know this to be true due to accelerating divorce rate. For example, a person who is married for the first time has a 50% chance of getting divorced. A person who has been married a second time has a 67% chance of getting divorced. A person who has been married a third time has a 75% chance of getting divorced.

The more a person gets married, the greater chance that that person will get divorced. People who get divorce do not get it right the first, second, and, third time. By the third time they are done. After the first divorce, the perspective person must replicate the tenets it the Original Design of Marriage or expect the same results of their first marriage.

What is the Original Design of Marriage?

The first example of a marriage was between Adam and Eve which is found in Genesis 2:15 – 2:17. God provided Adam with certain leadership principles outlined in Genesis 2:15. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden “… to dress it and to keep it” (Genesis 2:15). The word ‘dress’ in the Hebrew is ‘abad, which means to work as a servant. The word ‘keep’ in the Hebrew is shamar, which means to protect. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden to work as a servant in the garden and to protect the garden. Protecting the garden required that Adam become the steward of the garden. God granted Adam stewardship over the Garden of Eden.

Stewardship requires a relationship between the master and the one that the master entrusts with the resources. In this case, God is the master and He entrusted the Garden of Eden to Adam.

Secondly, God provided Adam with the path that he was to follow (Genesis 2:16 – 17). God instructed Adam on what he could and could not do. At that point and time, Adam maintained his relationship with God by obeying his commands.

Finally, God decided to provide Adam with a helper. Genesis 2:18 records …”The Lord God said , It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet”. That word ‘meet’ in the Hebrew is ‘ezer. Ezer means to help. These are the tenants that persons must consider before they start dating after divorce. 

If you are a male, consider the following checklist:

  1. Are you serving in your God ordained purpose?
  2. Are you a good steward over the resources that God has provided?
  3. What are you social, interdependent, and cooperative goals for your marriage?
  4. What talents and gifts does a wife need to help you with your god ordained purpose?
  5. What is your marriage vision?
  6. What is your family strategic plan?

 

If you are a female, consider the following checklist:

  1. Is he a servant?
  2. Is he a good steward?
  3. What are you social, interdependent, and cooperative goals for your marriage?
  4. What skills and talents do you have to help him with his God ordained purpose?
  5. What is your marriage vision?
  6. What is your family strategic plan?

Individuals who decide to contemplate the above mentioned before dating after divorce can expect to become successfully married. 

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

Published Books

 

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles

“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ


“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA


How should couples use Social Media?

 

 

Social Media has become an everyday part of life that continues to impact marriages across this world. Couples can either benefit from usage or become annihilated resulting in a divorce. Couples must use Social Media as a tool to ensure completion of their God given purpose to avoid the atrocities associated with divorce. 

Social Media are websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. Social networking is the use of dedicated websites and applications to interact with other users, or to find people with similar interests to oneself. The social networking aspect is what can provide challenges for couples.

The first aspect that couples must remember is that Social Media can cause division in the marriage. When a person decides to sign up for a social networking site the individual uses an individual email and password. Signing up for a social network website does not need the permission or blessings of the other person in the marriage. From the door, Social Media creates individuality rather than cohesiveness and unity in a marriage. 

The individuality of Social Media continues. Once a person develops their individual account, this person has an opportunity to either seek likeminded individuals or groups of individuals. The range of interests and groups is infinite.

Herein lies one problem. Social networking sites include concepts and themes that are contrary to a God centered marriage. For example, on Facebook, many people continually get requests from the opposite sex seeking to engage in some type of pornographic or sexual encounter. The pictures are very graphic and the text is only there to get the person to go to an outside pornographic website.

According to Janie Lacy, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Addiction Specialist in Orlando, Florida, “Pornography can lower the sense of self-esteem and self-worth of the wife because she may compare herself to the women that her husband is viewing on the screen.”  She sees it as a slippery slope to addiction. It may also lead to “an increase in the progression of rougher or more deviant sex.” This contributes to the husband becoming more focused on his needs and not those of his wife.

Another problem is reestablishing relationships with an ex or exes. Studies have shown that people who continue to stalk or keep tabs on their ex partners through Social Media like Facebook are more likely to reach out and try to continue being with them intimately. Psychologist and author Jill Weber, Ph.D. says, “If your relationship has ended, then it’s over: What you had with your ex no longer exists. Continuing the connection means that a part of you is still hoping that in some alternate universe there is a chance you and your ex can be together and be happy. As a result, you live off moments of closeness.”

Reconnecting with an ex can also lead to Social Media stalking. Science has shown that people who tend to stalk their exes on Social Media are also the same people who have a greater risk of depression. Constantly reminding yourself of a relationship that ended is a great way to cause yourself unneeded anguish. “Both psychiatrists and psychologists report that there is a close relationship between Social Media and depression since it is becoming a major means of communication. The addiction leads to social withdrawal, as users are preoccupied with spending their time on self-entertainment and defusing their daily activities,” says clinical psychologist Dr. Dolly Habbal.

The first step that couples should take when using Social Media is to become friends on the social networking website with your spouse. This will improve the transparency between yourself and your spouse. This will decrease any opportunities to start or rekindle relationships that could lead to infidelity. 

Next, Social Media websites provide persons an opportunity to either create or become involved in specific groups with targeted interest. If you create a group or page, make sure your spouse becomes a part of that group as an adminstrator. This helps because once again it invites transparency. Next, if you lose your privileged to the group for some reason, your spouse can reconnect you. 

Finally, couples need to begin on the necessity for Social Media. When couples know their purpose, then they will know the reason for the Social Media website. This provides an opportunity to develop a Social Media strategic plan. Furthermore, this will help to make decisions on the type of people to interact with and the types of groups to join in the couples Social Media quests.

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

#Luveuphoria

Published Books

  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land
  • Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)
  • Advanced Marriage Training for Singles
  • Husband Leadership Principles


 

“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

 

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ


“I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

 

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA