Once the newness of a marriage has subsided, other factors become more prominent which will require couples to take steps to shatter proof their marriage. One of those factors is finances. Living in a world that requires finances to live can complicate the original purpose of the husband and wife. Couples will need to formulate a team mindset in which they decide that they can shatter proof their marriage by trusting the Word of God.
According the article, Biggest Money Problems that Could Kill Your Marriage, the author outlines ten areas that would require couples to financially shatter proof their marriage. The article surmises that ” If you don’t give financial concerns the proper attention, they can eventually snowball into a bigger problem. Before you know it, you’re in divorce court fighting over who gets to keep the dog. Financial issues are one of the fastest ways to destroy an otherwise good relationship. In fact, a study conducted by Kansas State University found that couples who argue about money have a higher chance of divorce”.
The 10 biggest money problems that could kill your marriage, according to the article are:
1) Your spouse is an underearner
2) You can’t get your partner to stop overspending
3) You’re married to a gold digger
4) Your spouse is financially unfaithful
5) Your spouse doesn’t want to work
6) Your spouse has a financially needy family member
7) Your partner is clueless about money management
8) Neither of you knows where the household money is going
9) Your spouse has significant debt
10) Your spouse is jealous of your financial and career success
If any of these sound familiar then you are reading the right article. The first problem that couples with these challenges are having is their initial mindset which will require them to shatter proof their marriage. The Word of God tells us to financially shatter proof our marriages according to Matthew 6:24.
No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon (Matthew 6:24).
Couples who decide to serve mammon will have increased disagreements regarding money. Couples who decide to serve God will have decreased disagreements regarding money. But when one decides to serve mammon and the other decides to serve God, that is when the fireworks will remain which can ultimately result in a divorce.
Why do couples who decide to serve mammon will unsuccessfully shatter proof their marriage?
The word mammon comes from the Greek word mammonas. Similar root words exist in Hebrew, Latin, Aramaic, Chaldean and Syriac. They all translate to money, wealth, and material possessions. In the biblical culture the word mammon carries a negative connotation associated with lusts and excesses, gluttony, greed, and dishonest worldly gain.
According to Revelation 18, the city of Babylon is a description of a world given over to the spirit of Mammon. Today, Babylon is an empty city. In times of peace tourists can go see the partially rebuilt ruins of Babylon that have remained empty for almost 2,000 years. The city is exactly like Isaiah predicted: “It shall never be inhabited, neither shall it be dwelt in from generation to generation: neither shall the Arabian pitch tent there; neither shall the shepherds make their fold there. (Isaiah 13:20)”. Couples who decide to agree to serve mammon can expect the same result.
Why do couples who decide to serve mammon and God will unsuccessfully shatter proof their marriage?
To serve both God and mammon means to bring division into the marriage. The holy scriptures reveal that “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand (Mark 3:25).” When division is in the house couples will stop being transparent. In turn they will start making assumptions and start hiding things which ultimately leads to anger and mistrust. When communication completely breaks down, and each person thinks it is beyond repair, they will often believe that divorce is the only option.
Why do couples who decide to serve God will successfully shatter proof their marriage?
When couples decide to serve God then they will follow the tenants outlined by the Word of God and prosper. One such tenant is Malachi 3:10.
Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.
Couples who decide to adhere to this tenant can expect God to take care of their needs. They can expect deliverance in the face of financial ruin. Couples can only shatter proof their marriage by serving God.
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